From “WTF!” to “I’m killing it!” in 1 Hour or Less

5:30 a.m. Hmmm…I wish I could have slept until 6 but now I have extra time to get my day off to a good start. Julie Ann and I have the entire day blocked off to work together on marketing and a good start will serve me/us well. 

6:15 a.m.  I have already done yoga and still have time to write some thoughts in my journal before others expect anything of me. Look at me!  

6:45 a.m.  Most excellent. I have already made Lali’s school lunch and I have eggs boiling.  

7:00 a.m. “Mom, my stomach hurts.”  Oh brother. This again? 

8:00 a.m. After several conversations and observations, “Ok then (I acquiesce). If you’re really sick I’ll take you to the office where you’ll need to rest all day.” 

Inside my head I am saying “Fuck me!” 

(The WTF I put in the title was me being polite). 

I feel pissed.  

I notice myself coming up with the regular bulleted list in my head:  

  • It’s hard to grow a business as a solo mother. 
  • It’s hard to be a loving parent when I don’t believe my child is actually sick. 
  • It’s hard to know the right thing to do in times of COVID.  

From pissed off, I then feel some fear: 

  • What does Julie Ann really think about Lali coming to the office? 
  • What does it say about me to care more about my work plans than my daughter?  
  • Will I have to wait until she is at university to truly unleash my business potential? 

Your version of a “sick child” may come in a different form: 

Tech hiccups. Product delays. Broken pipes. Snowstorms. Missed targets. Moody colleagues. Economic contractions. Too much work. Not enough work. 

The truth is that as leaders, and people, curveballs will appear. We’ll often feel like it couldn’t happen at a worse time. And we’ll need to face it regardless.   

The conventional wisdom is to work hard, anticipate all the possible problems, have contingency plans, build in redundancies etc. But can we really be prepared for all possibilities?  And doesn’t it sound exhausting to try? 

The less conventional and far more enlivening path is to learn to accept ourselves exactly where we are as our very first step. 

Yes, I was pissed off that my day didn’t unfold in the “perfect” way I prefer.  Yes, it brought up some fears that I don’t like to feel.  And yes, I feel sad when I resist life as it is…(don’t we all?) 

Happily, I was able to welcome those feelings for a few minutes and shift into a state of possibility.  

Interestingly, shifting had nothing to do with working harder or having a Plan B, C and D.  

It had everything to do with welcoming the anger, fear and sadness for a few moments and being willing to move through it to see what I could make of the day, even with a kid along for the ride. 

9:00 a.m. From this place of acceptance (of me and of reality), I genuinely think:  

  • It’s so cool that the universe gave me some real-life material for this post. 
  • I’m so grateful Julie Ann accepts me and adapts to changes so well.  
  • Our space rocks. We have so much space that a sick girl can hang out far from people as she rests, while still being near her working mom. 

Perhaps you’d like to move more quickly from “Fuck me!” to “I’m killing it” more often?  It’s easier than you think AND it’s tough to do it alone. Fortunately for you, you don’t have to.  

Schedule a complementary Thrive Session today. You’ll have my full presence for 45 minutes (or Julie Ann’s). Together, we can explore how you can accept yourself exactly where you are so you can fast track your way to Thriving. You deserve this. To your thriving!  

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