Hard or Easy: It’s My Choice

It was nearing the end of August. I’d had a really good summer of family time on the beach, growing flowers for Les fleurs de Lali, and a stint in a cottage with friends. 

Sadly, on the business side, the goals I had set— to revamp our website and find a new space for Chandler Coaches—were only inching along.  I felt discouraged. I was blaming myself and some others for the failing grade. 

Through my drama, I had an insight. Or perhaps I was grasping at straws? I reached out to Krista Smith at Activate Her Awesome with my ‘rock and a hard place’ story.  She had done my site a few years ago. Her reply was music to my ears.

“Let’s go on an intensive retreat in Mahone Bay. We’ll get your entire site revamped in one week.” 

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I committed that very day. We went from a totally outdated site to a fresh new one by the third week of September. Even Hurricane Dorian didn’t stop us!

And through the magic of Facebook (and a nod to Bill Chandler and Luis Roman), I also found a nearly perfect office space after a long search.  As I write, I feel at home here. Our clients do, too, which is high praise.

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I believe there are two reasons why we were able to go from ‘failed’ to ‘fulfilled’ goals within six weeks: 

1. I asked for and received incredible support.

I am grateful to a whole bunch of people. My parents kept my daughter so I could go to Mahone Bay on retreat. They have also helped a great deal with the office set up. Other family and friends have cleaned, recovered chairs, brainstormed ideas, shopped, and moved furniture.  Even PEI tradespeople came exactly when they said they would and did exactly what they said they would do. Lisa Doyle MacBain, our Manager of Client Services, kept things running smoothly on many fronts during the transition. 

2. I was decisive and also decided to make it easy and fun.

My decisions to hire Krista and to rent the space came easy after a lot of previous indecision. But the decision to make it all easy and fun changed EVERYTHING. 

The backstory is that I have been getting feedback over the years that I often make things hard for myself. I’ve long resisted the feedback even when I could see there was truth in it. And the worst part is that by making it hard for me, I would often make it hard for others also. I would have exacting standards, a belief that things needed to be done a certain way and disappointment if they weren’t.  

While I am deeply grateful for the support I describe above, I am even more grateful for the challenging feedback I received from my loving friend and colleague Monica Callon of Oncorp Coaching. She laid it on the line for me.  She showed me the impact of “leading” from fear and scarcity and making things hard. And it’s not pretty. And because of her courage, I have finally heard it. And I am finally willing to change it. Merci, Monica.

September and October have been really full months for me. From my “below the line” stance in August, I remember wondering how on earth I would pull it all off while getting my daughter back to school and fulfilling my commitments to current clients. 

Then I asked myself, “How could this be fun and easy?”  And that made all the difference. That, and a whole crew of people who love, support and challenge me. 


  1. Sharon on October 30, 2019 at 10:15 am

    I needed this reminder today! Mindset is so important. Being mindful of making it “fun and easy” is how I will stage my day. Thanks Lisa for sharing your insights. Godspeed.

  2. Angelo Pesce on October 30, 2019 at 4:41 pm

    So glad to hear that you have gotten rid of the barrier of making things hard for yourself. Finding the fun in our performance not only helps us but it helps our clients as well.


    • Lisa on October 31, 2019 at 1:15 pm

      Hey Angelo
      Thanks for reading my post. It definitely helps our clients. I doubt I have “gotten rid of” the barrier. I am more conscious of it sometimes and more in choice though. I do believe there is a strong possibility I will continue to find ways to make things hard from time to time! Practice makes better but not perfect:)

  3. Krista Smith on October 31, 2019 at 6:53 am

    What a great post, Lisa!! I’m so happy you had your dream. I’m thrilled the universe aligned and made it possible to create space to make this happen. I loved every minute of our time together and couldn’t be prouder of our work. PEI is so lucky to have an on-island leadership coach with such depth of training. xoxo

  4. Julie Connolly on December 5, 2019 at 12:12 pm

    I think that what I also saw you do was ask for help. I think we (& I absolutely include myself in this) try to do everything
    ourselves & forget that people are usually only too willing to help if we just ask. You asked your parents to care of Lali, you
    asked Krista for her help to achieve the end result.

    There is a lesson in there for all of us Lisa & I am always grateful for the openness & honesty in your self reflection!

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