From Deep Below the Line

I’m deeply below the line and I don’t like it. 

“The world keeps worlding” to use Oliver Burkeman’s words and there’s a lot on the macro and micro levels that I resist from the overturn of Roe v Wade in the U.S. to my daughter’s moods.

I’ve been trying to write this f*&#ing post all weekend. When I started on Friday, I was putting pressure on myself to write something meaningful to cap off the year. Words came but I hated them all.

Now I am writing from even deeper below the line. My daughter just left for school and the morning felt like a continuous fight. 

It’s time to admit that any words that come from me right now are going to either come from me feeling time-scarcity and anger, or be falsely positive and therefore ingenuine.

Acceptance and Shifting

As I work to accept myself for being below the line—a place I still find myself much of the time–I’m going to share words and ideas from others I have learned a lot from (see below for “Resources worth plunging into”). I’d usually hold myself to a higher bar of creating more original content. Taking this easier path is growth for me. 

Pillow-pounding (I was truly at wit’s end), and assembling the list, while remembering some of the aha moments I had while taking in the resources, has me feeling much closer to the line. I am not above, but I am not plunged far below anymore. I’ll take it!

Summer Retreat

As June turns to July, I am fortunate to step away from business for a while. Unlike last year, our cottage-y camper is all set up and ready to go.  And while I am very excited about my first PEI summer with Peter, I’m somewhat daunted by our complicated parenting. We’ll see what happens. The way I show up and the stories I tell myself about it are up to me.

As I sign off, I wish you much delight. Season Two for me starts now. 

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Resources worth plunging into:

Coming Up in the Fall

We’ll be back this fall with several dates for Coach to Thrive, our two-day training for leaders who want to learn coaching skills and lead with much greater ease.  

6 Comments

  1. Sharon on June 29, 2022 at 8:22 am

    Thanks for your honesty. I am going to pour through your recommendations because there will be a lesson (or six) in there for me. Our physical paths have not crossed recently but you will always be “MY coach”. You end up in my thoughts or in my inbox when I need you. I am listening and treasure your words…regardless of the category that you put them in. I am feeling Optimism today…thanks, in part, to you for challenging me to discover what I want. How would it feel if you could remove all of the “measurement” words for today? Enjoy your summer and my wish for you is that the complex becomes simple.

    • Lisa on July 4, 2022 at 7:21 am

      Dear Sharon
      I will happily always be “YOUR coach”. When you mirror back what words matter to you, it helps me remember/be reminded what matters to me too. I listened to a great podcast yesterday on sex and relationships. In it, one of the interviewees said “Let pleasure be the measure.” Works for sex. Seems like it’s a good idea for this PEI summer too:) xo

  2. Alison on June 29, 2022 at 12:37 pm

    Bring on season two! Our parenting journey is meant to stretch us. When it’s unconventional, it forces us to let go of preconceived ideas and assumptions. I’m reminded daily what a gift it is to parent these kids. It takes courage, empathy, openness and acceptance – basically every tool you have as a coach / leader! You will be imperfect. It won’t be easy. They will be okay. And so will you. Enjoy the glamping in your beautiful part of the Island. Let peace find you.

    • Lisa on July 4, 2022 at 7:18 am

      Dear Alison,
      You know of what you speak. It was such a gift to see you in person while you visited our fair Isle. I do feel grateful that my work has given me skills that are so helpful in complex parenting, even when very imperfectly applied. I shall be waiting to hear from you when you re-emerge from your much deserved summer of adventure. xo

  3. Kate on June 30, 2022 at 10:16 am

    I needed to read this today (and Alison’s comment too)! Enjoy your first summer with Peter and try not to stress too much about the complicated parenting. I don’t know anyone who could do it better than you. I have learned from you how to embrace my own challenges with complex parenting so have faith in yourself and your ability to make it work. Enjoy this wonderful summer and all the opportunities it brings.

    • Lisa on July 4, 2022 at 7:15 am

      Dear Kate
      Just seeing this now. Thank you for your enduring faith in me and the reminder I have what I need to be with whatever is occurring. Thank you for the summer wishes too. I am responding from my (city) deck where the birds are singing and there is a wonderful breeze. There’s no Nelson in a swinging chair, mind you, but I am imagining this set up would be Nelson approved. Hope you and Paul and your girls find many a good wave and sunset. xo

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