I’m deeply below the line and I don’t like it.
“The world keeps worlding” to use Oliver Burkeman’s words and there’s a lot on the macro and micro levels that I resist from the overturn of Roe v Wade in the U.S. to my daughter’s moods.
I’ve been trying to write this f*&#ing post all weekend. When I started on Friday, I was putting pressure on myself to write something meaningful to cap off the year. Words came but I hated them all.
Now I am writing from even deeper below the line. My daughter just left for school and the morning felt like a continuous fight.
It’s time to admit that any words that come from me right now are going to either come from me feeling time-scarcity and anger, or be falsely positive and therefore ingenuine.
Acceptance and Shifting
As I work to accept myself for being below the line—a place I still find myself much of the time–I’m going to share words and ideas from others I have learned a lot from (see below for “Resources worth plunging into”). I’d usually hold myself to a higher bar of creating more original content. Taking this easier path is growth for me.
Pillow-pounding (I was truly at wit’s end), and assembling the list, while remembering some of the aha moments I had while taking in the resources, has me feeling much closer to the line. I am not above, but I am not plunged far below anymore. I’ll take it!
As June turns to July, I am fortunate to step away from business for a while. Unlike last year, our cottage-y camper is all set up and ready to go. And while I am very excited about my first PEI summer with Peter, I’m somewhat daunted by our complicated parenting. We’ll see what happens. The way I show up and the stories I tell myself about it are up to me.
As I sign off, I wish you much delight. Season Two for me starts now.
Resources worth plunging into:
- These two podcasts with Diana Chapman can be life changing: Trusting your instincts from The Knowledge Project and How to create change by arguing the other side. from Care More Be Better.
- These two podcasts with Jim Dethmer are a wide awakening: How to Shift from Victim Consciousness, Reduce Drama, Practice Candor, Be Fully Alive and More from The Tim Ferris Show and The Power of Conscious Leadership from Leading with Genuine Care.
- We’re not going back to the time before Roe, we’re going somewhere worse. This 12 min read from The New Yorker provides such a comprehensive overview of the myriad of issues that arise from the U.S. overturn of Roe v. Wade.
- Seth Godin’s Failing on our Way to Mastery from The Knowledge Project reminded me why I love Seth’s alternative way of seeing the world.
Coming Up in the Fall
We’ll be back this fall with several dates for Coach to Thrive, our two-day training for leaders who want to learn coaching skills and lead with much greater ease.