Dancing With What Is
As the tango unfolds, my inner voice is sometimes loud: What if not enough leaders commit? What does that say about the Forum? What does this say about me? This “should be” easier etc.
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Creator or Victim?
“Suffering is universal but victimhood[1] is optional.” Dr. Edith Eva Eger Dr. Edith Eva Eger’s book The Choice: Embrace the Possible is a rollercoaster of hope and despair. I found it both painfully raw and amazingly optimistic. Dr. Eger, a renowned clinical psychologist who helps trauma survivors around the world, is a Holocaust survivor herself. The central tenet of her…
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We’re Growing Ourselves
To have this impact, Chandler Coaches needs to scale. It’s time to shift from being the centre of our company to becoming a leader who develops others.
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Hard or Easy: It’s My Choice
It took asking myself, “How could this be fun and easy?”, to see the difference. That, and a whole crew of people who love, support and challenge me.
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It’s Your Life. Join at Any Time!
Don’t wait. Welcome everything. Push nothing away. Bring your whole self to the experience. Find a place to rest in the middle of things. Cultivate “don’t know” mind [sometimes called “beginners’ mind”] Five invitations to live fully. Five invitations to make friends with everything. Five invitations to get up close and personal with your own demise. When I mentioned to…
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A Crack in Everything
Ring the bells (ring the bells) that still can ring Forget your perfect offering There is a crack in everything (there is a crack in everything) That’s how the light gets in¹ ~ Leonard Cohen Our imagined March Break plans cracked at the last minute. Forget our perfect offering… And yet, we found moments of connection and delight in Montreal…
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The Dance Between Purpose and Safety
If you are an average leader (Who wants to be average? I know!), you are likely subject to your thoughts and feelings much of the time. You don’t have your feelings. They HAVE you. You aren’t conscious that you’re often afraid, you just ARE scared. You likely won’t easily see it or admit it though. Since we humans are hard-wired…
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Introducing Heroine Helen
Her most important thing is to be helpful, sweet, caring and loving. She rescues by easing pain and suffering, at least temporarily. She prides herself on making homemade treats for those she loves, who are in “need”; she makes homemade cards too. She’s proud of her listening ear, how her thoughtful deeds will have you feeling special, and how she’ll…
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If You Really Knew Me…
…that I think A LOT. That I hold myself to impossible standards. …that I often feel scared. Angry. Jealous. Wronged. Blaming. Overwhelmed—there’s not enough time, money, love, whatever. Sometimes I feel powerless to change things. I am below the line often. And it is all fine. It’s perfect in fact. I am starting to truly understand this and believe it.…
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Blame or Shift?
Recently a friend texted for advice about a “hard client he was working with” (his words). He indicated he thought she needed some tough love. He asked me to tell him how to do that. I agreed to have a conversation to explore his situation. He told me that he had spent three hours the night before crafting an…
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