2009 was a challening year for me on many fronts. About 3 weeks ago I sat down to do my own year-end questionnaire to complete the year (a tool I share with my coaching clients). On first pass, I felt depressed and eager for the year to be done. However, a few conversations and “reframes” later with ardent and supportive friends had me seeing things from a different perspective.
Here are a few of the things I am most proud of:
- My former tenant and a coaching colleague allowed me to set them up on a date last January. A few days before Christmas I received this photo with the message “Look what you started!”. They married on November 28th. I beamed when I read the note. Isn’t this what life is all about?
- In May, I became a Certified Professional Co-active Coach (CPCC) and in June an Associate Certified Coach (ACC). While the titles give me credibility, I am most proud of the learning and the relationships I built with colleagues as far away as England, South Africia and the US during the certification process. I treasure my colleagues and my new skills and knowledge.
- My life to date has had its share of productivity and accomplishments. Yet this year, certain things I really wanted to create in my life actually failed, hurting me and others too. Some people fear the word failure. I no longer do. It stings. That is for sure and its effects can linger. AND there are things to be gained from failing too…like opening up to being more vulnerable, learning to ask for help, the opportunity for deeper relationships, and learning to live more comfortably through uncertainty. The sting of failure. I still don’t like it and I am a heck of a lot better at it than I was a year ago. I wouldn’t mind if there is less dissappointment in my 2010 but I know I am resilient enough to weather what comes in 2010. And it doesn’t hurt that I have amazing friends and family who support me at every turn.
- In 2009 I came home to the maritimes for a number of special occasions: Christmas, my parents 40th wedding anniversary in February, my brother’s 30th birthday (and my 40th!) in July, my sisters’s 35th birthday in October and now Christmas in PEI again. I am proud I was part of these milestones in my family and so grateful we all want to celebrate together.
- The past year saw my clients courageously tackle big issues in their lives and businesses. My coaching helped them leave mind-numbing jobs that conflicted with their values, find ways to live more peacefully while running high pressure businesses, reframe failure and see beautiful opportunities that lay just on the other side, and deepen relationships with partners (life and business), family, friends, bosses and employees. Thoughtful Christmas cards from several of them brought quiet smiles of satisfaction to my face.
- My own partnership with my friend and colleague Tanya Geisler grew into a full blown business with the launch of Coach Buffet, an idea we started developing in the spring of 2009. By early December, we had already received coverage in the Globe and Mail.
- Coach Buffet created a platform to get to know amazing coaches in Montreal and Toronto. I am proud my coaching network grew from a handful last year to well over 40 coaches. Almost half of these fine folks joined me in my home on Dec 18th for a Christmas potluck lunch. Most of us are entrepreneurs/ self employed consultants so it was fun to gather at holiday time to raise a glass of cheer.
If 7 is a lucky number, perhaps it is best to stop the list right here.
I received a beautiful journal of Peter Beard photograhy for Christmas from my friend Claire. In it, I plan to keep track of how 2010 unfolds. I would love to sit down a year from now and share that a few of my dreams have come true (or at least are further along). And perhaps I will share more about my failures too. You see, if I fail in 2010, it means I dared to keep going after what I value most. For me, this is pretty important.
If you would like an electronic copy of my year end questionnaire “Creating Your Bigger Game for 2010” please comment below and I will be happy to send it to you.